4 Ways to Deal With a Super Selfish Couple and Want to Win Themselves
October 02, 2019
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Having a partner who understands and understands each other may be something that is very desired by some people. But in reality there are many people who get the opposite. In the end, it is not harmony that is obtained, but instead chaos or disputes that often occur and are sometimes triggered by things that are actually considered not important or trivial enough.
Selfishness and irritability often trigger and cause frequent disputes. Moreover, plus the two forced themselves to insist to keep winning at every battle. This is indeed very reasonable because after all humans are still humans with all its characteristics.
Well for those of you who experience this, it never hurts to try the following ways so that the atmosphere becomes more peaceful. Although sometimes you have to sacrifice your feelings, but in this way all the things that are not desirable will be resolved properly.
Here are 4 ways to deal with couples who are super selfish and tend to want to win alone. Listen and apply well - good so that your relationship is lasting and durable with your partner.
4 Ways to deal with a partner who is super selfish and wants to win alone.
1. Give more understanding by not giving an attitude that makes his emotions furious.
People who are selfish and want to win themselves are usually easily provoked emotions by small things. In fact, it is also not uncommon for the right thing but not pleasing in his heart to make his emotions overflowed. Upset when advised and tend to always want to be praised. Finally, what you do will always go awry in his eyes.
So that this does not happen, it would be nice for us to try to budge and give more understanding. If what you are doing is wrong in his eyes even though it is the right thing, then you better yield and correct it but just show your expressions of frustration. If you make a negative expression, then it won't reduce the possibility of a fight.
2. Try to apologize first even though the error does not lie in you.
Sorry may be only a short word but have a very deep meaning for people who are easy to say. The word sorry can calm the hot atmosphere to be more conducive. This will certainly bring an improvement to conditions that are not known.
Apologizing in the first place doesn't mean you admit you're wrong. But it is more an effort to your understanding so that the atmosphere can be better. Besides that, your partner will think that everything is over. And finally they can both admit mistakes for what happened.
3. Know what the intentions and desires to be conveyed by people who have high egos.
There is a saying that we are given 2 ears and 1 mouth by the Creator so that we can listen more than talk. Therefore, if you are dealing with people who have an attitude of sentiment, it would be better for you to listen more than talk.
This might be very annoying. But even so, there still must be one who succumbs to listening more than talking. In this case, the debate will be easily prevented properly and in a wiser way.
4. Suppress emotions and keep giving expressions that do not show your frustration.
Only with a smile all the problems that occur will conical more quickly without this and that argument. When you are dealing with people who are angry, selfish and tend to want to win themselves, then all you do is stay calm and give a positive expression so that everything quickly subsides.
Although sometimes because of his attitude often makes you upset and want to be angry, then try to hold your emotions for a moment and give an expression that is contrary to the upset attitude that you feel. In this way the person or partner in front of you will certainly soon be calmer so that he can lower his ego faster.
For those of you who have experienced this, then please try the things above so that the relationship will survive and get better. Believe me, people who are still shaded by a high emotional sense are not fully mature in understanding themselves. Therefore we need a wiser way to deal with situations like that. Gradually over time, people or couples who have this attitude will become more mature if faced with the ways earlier.